Well, chance and chemistry and timing. And you’re right, there isn’t an “out of your league” thing. There might be RIGHTATTHISMOMENT, but then that’s just incentive to better yourself to become someone they would find interesting. I mean, if a high school drop-out wanted to talk to Natalie Portman, she might not think he was worthy of her. But if he got his GED, started volunteering and seemed to be working to better his situation, he might catch her attention.